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General Questions and Discussion / Recent events and policies we'd like to discuss
« on: October 28, 2007, 07:48:42 PM »
Initially, I was unsure whether to post here or not, given that everything I could possibly say has already been already explained wonderfully by other fellow staffers and board members, but hey, I might as well give my two cents ^_^
Everyone is absolutely welcomed to voice his/her opinions and constructive criticism anytime they want as you're all doing here, of course that's a given! But reading the first post of this topic, I felt terribly sad, and I suddenly realized what I found most disappointing about that: seems like there are people who forget we are human beings, and not only us staffers, but other members of this wonderful community as well (because I really find it wonderful, in all honesty: I moderate and visit other places and I've never found anything as peaceful and friendly as this little cozy corner of the net).
I'm not trying to bring up victimism to this issue, just take this as a reminder: rules are there to organize, to sort things in the most objective way, to find an option which satisfies most people (not everyone, that's impossible!) and to help us out, for example, when we approve new fanlistings, because we are humans (as I said) and we can't possibly know every anime/manga out there and if a 4+ relationship fanlisting is valid or not. TFL fanlistings are not plugged here because that would be unfair: why give a special treatment to a certain category because statistically, anime/manga fans are also gamers? (and I'm both): when a decision is made in that aspect, we can't make exceptions, we need to be consistent. Topics are closed mostly when people start to forget about other people's feelings. The application limit is there to give everyone a chance. I feel horrible when I'm doing rejections because I inevitably think how that person will feel, and I had to reject close friends more than a couple of times. If you think about it, everything comes down to understand and emphatize with how others might feel, more or less.
I'm one of those staffers that can't frequent these boards as much as they like, because I have a life, a family, a boyfriend, studies and other Internet duties. And reading that post I felt bad about this fact even though I can't do anything about it because, well, that's how my life is. And I think I shouldn't feel this way. Before complaining about things like that, I'd first try and put myself in the other's shoes. See? Here it is again.
I know I digressed, and I'm sorry. If there was a point I wanted to make clear with all that is that I find this network runs smoothly with our current rules, and that people should forget that idea about the godlike!staffer, because no matter what we decide, our feelings are behind it. We know we try to be as objective as we can, and for doing so we try to think how will all of you will feel, but it's very sad some people can't do the same with us.
Everyone is absolutely welcomed to voice his/her opinions and constructive criticism anytime they want as you're all doing here, of course that's a given! But reading the first post of this topic, I felt terribly sad, and I suddenly realized what I found most disappointing about that: seems like there are people who forget we are human beings, and not only us staffers, but other members of this wonderful community as well (because I really find it wonderful, in all honesty: I moderate and visit other places and I've never found anything as peaceful and friendly as this little cozy corner of the net).
I'm not trying to bring up victimism to this issue, just take this as a reminder: rules are there to organize, to sort things in the most objective way, to find an option which satisfies most people (not everyone, that's impossible!) and to help us out, for example, when we approve new fanlistings, because we are humans (as I said) and we can't possibly know every anime/manga out there and if a 4+ relationship fanlisting is valid or not. TFL fanlistings are not plugged here because that would be unfair: why give a special treatment to a certain category because statistically, anime/manga fans are also gamers? (and I'm both): when a decision is made in that aspect, we can't make exceptions, we need to be consistent. Topics are closed mostly when people start to forget about other people's feelings. The application limit is there to give everyone a chance. I feel horrible when I'm doing rejections because I inevitably think how that person will feel, and I had to reject close friends more than a couple of times. If you think about it, everything comes down to understand and emphatize with how others might feel, more or less.
I'm one of those staffers that can't frequent these boards as much as they like, because I have a life, a family, a boyfriend, studies and other Internet duties. And reading that post I felt bad about this fact even though I can't do anything about it because, well, that's how my life is. And I think I shouldn't feel this way. Before complaining about things like that, I'd first try and put myself in the other's shoes. See? Here it is again.
I know I digressed, and I'm sorry. If there was a point I wanted to make clear with all that is that I find this network runs smoothly with our current rules, and that people should forget that idea about the godlike!staffer, because no matter what we decide, our feelings are behind it. We know we try to be as objective as we can, and for doing so we try to think how will all of you will feel, but it's very sad some people can't do the same with us.